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Three years ago, I invited a Thai friend who lives in the USA but we have never met in person to be the guest on my Youtube channel. We talked about her marriage life with foriegn husband. They have lived in Texas.
Ann came to the USA in 2000 (her age at 20s) for working at her aunt’s Thai restaurant. Her husband at that time would like to learn Thai then he applied and worked at her aunt’s restaurant where they met. Her husband is a mixed blood between Thai and American but his Thai was vanished. She never knewn the dating site and never thought about seeking anyone. She knew about the dating site later when someone told her about it but she never used it.
They did not give a dowry for her family because he did not have money for it . His expenses share to support his children. The good part was her family understood and never mentioned. After married, they did not send money back to Thai family too because they had their family in the USA to take care of. She said, “ If we have more money , we will send to Thai family for sure. Luckily, the family in Thailand never requested.”
She told me that , she never felt stuggle at all after married her husband but happier every day because when she was young, her life was not easy. I told her that I did not know how to use the shovel to dig the ground, planting on the land because my family was not being like that. We lived in the city but we were not rich. In the other hand, many people thought that was only rich people will never done all kind of things as people from subburb. I am not rich and I do not do the things that many people from suburb do. We even did not have our own house, only stayed in rental houses in Bangkok.
She is originally from Buengkan Province. It was Nognkai before isolated.She is understanding the fact that people who do not have experince or stay in enviroment then they cannot do things or they have no idea about things. This is what many people judge others. For example, I am not a rich girl and my family is in the middle class but they raised me as in very convenience living as much as they could and provided tools and equiptments to make life easier. I do not know how to light the Thai traditional style chacoal stove. I grew up with an electric and gas stoves. Even though, my grandparents’s house (my mother side) had that kind of stove.
Back to Ann’s story, she talked to her husband about having their own kid. Her husband said , “ I do not want to have more kids because I already have my own from previous wife.” He already had a sterilisation. She had no problem at all. Later, they agreed to have their own child then he releazed the sterilisation and they got a daughter.
She used to think about work and save money to get the house, the car and all conveinience things on her own but she never done because her husband has all of them. She lives with him and he shares everything to her.
Before she met her husband. She had a bad relationship and escaped from it. She did not expect to marry again and she moved in his house without worried if he would marry her or not. She even never thought about the age of man who she will marry to. She let love leads, no matter of ages. I asked her if they had problem, no conflict with anything as a couple. She said, “No, we did not really have problem but there were things to adabt and understand each other. There are many things do differntly as each culture, language barrier, he tried to speak Thai but not in Thai way then I kept correcting and explaining until he understood.
I asked for her opinion, what did she think about Thai younger women were looking for retirement foriegn men because they thoght those men had money to take care of them and support their Thai family. In the opposite, what about Thai women chose younger foriegn men to be their husbands. She said, “ I do not know and I cannot tell at all because myself will follow the feeling and loves most. She added, “We use a lot of enegery to live with someone for life.” Her suggestion was do not rush to take the decision but take time to know the man well enough before taking a serious decision to throw your life in with his life.
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Three years ago, I invited a Thai woman named Ann to be a guest on my YouTube channel.
We had never met in person, but we have known each other for
a long timesa long time
from online somewhere
whihwhich I do not remember.
She had been living in the USA for many years, and I wanted her to share her experience We talked about her marriage life with foriegn husband of being married to a foreign husband.
She and her family live in Texas.
Ann came to the USA in 2000
(her age at 20s)when she was in her twenties
for
workingwork at her aunt’s Thai restaurant. Her husband at that time
would likewanted to learn Thai,
then he applied and workedso he applied to work at her aunt’s restaurant where they met.
Her husband is
a mixed blood between Thai and Americanhalf Thai and half American
but his Thai
was vanishedhad faded. She
never knewndidn’t know about the dating site and never thought about
seeking anyonelooking for anyone. She knew about
the dating sitedating sites later when someone told her about it, but she never used
itthem.
They did not
give a dowry for her familypay a dowry to her family because he did not have money
for it . His expenses share to support his children.
for it. Most of his money went to supporting his children.
The good part was her family understood and never
mentionedasked about it. After
marriedthey married, they did not send money back to
Thai family tooher family in Thailand either because they had their family in the USA to take care of.
She said,
“ If we have more money , we will send to Thai family for sure. Luckily, the family in Thailand never requested.”
“If we had more money, we would definitely send it to my family in Thailand. Luckily, they never asked.”
She told me
that , she never felt stuggle at all after married her husband but happier every day
that she never felt she struggled at all after marrying her husband; instead, she became happier every day
because when she was young, her life was not easy. I told her that I did not know how to use
the shovel to dig the ground, planting on the land
a shovel to dig the ground or plant anything because my family was not
being like thatthat kind of family.
We lived in the city but we were not rich.
In the other handOn the other hand, many people thought that
was only rich people will never done all kind of things as people from subburb.
only rich people never do the kinds of things people from the suburbs do.
I am not rich and I do not do the things that many people from
suburbthe countryside do.
We even did not have our own house,
only stayed in rental houseswe only stayed in rented houses in Bangkok.
She is originally from
Buengkan Province. It was Nognkai before isolated.
Bueng Kan Province, which used to be part of Nong Khai before it became its own province.
She
is understandingunderstands the fact that people who do not have
experince or stay in enviroment then they cannot do things or they have no idea about things.
experience or grow up in a certain environment cannot do certain things or may not even know about them.
This is what many people
judge others.use to judge others.
For example, I am not a rich girl and my family is
in the middle classmiddle class but they raised me
as in very convenience livingto live a very convenient life
as much as they could and provided tools and
equiptmentsequipment to make life easier.
I do not know how to light the Thai traditional
style chacoal stove.charcoal stove.
I grew up with
an electric and gas stoves.electric and gas stoves.
Even though my
grandparents’sgrandparents’ house (my mother’s side) had that kind of stove.
Back to Ann’s story, she talked to her husband about having their own kid.
Back to Ann’s story, she talked to her husband about having a child together.
Her husband said ,
“ I do not want to have more kids because I already have my own from previous wife.”
“I don’t want to have more kids because I already have children from my previous wife.”
He already had
a sterilisation.a sterilization procedure.
She had no problem at all. Later, they agreed to have their own child
then he releazed the sterilisation
so he reversed the sterilization and they got a daughter.
She used to think about
work and save money to get the house, the car and all conveinience things on her own but she never done because her husband has all of them.
working and saving money to buy a house, a car, and all the convenient things by herself, but she never needed to because her husband already had all of them.
She lives with him and he shares everything
to her.with her.
Before she met her husband., she had a bad relationship and escaped from it.
She did not expect to marry again and she moved
in his house without worried if he would marry her or not.
into his house without worrying whether he would marry her or not.
She even never thought about the age of
man who she will marry to.
the man she would marry.
She let love
leadslead, no matter
of ages.the age difference.
I asked her if they had
problem, no conflict with anything as a couple.
problems or conflicts as a couple.
She said,
“No, we did not really have problem but there were things to adabt and understand each other.
“No, we didn’t really have big problems, but there were things we had to adapt to and understand about each other.
There are many things do differntly as each culture, language barrier, he tried to speak Thai but not in Thai way then I kept correcting and explaining until he understood.
We do many things differently because of our cultures and the language barrier. He tried to speak Thai, but not in a Thai way, so I kept correcting and explaining until he understood.”
I asked for her opinion, what did she think about Thai younger women
were looking for retirement foriegn men because they thoght those men had money to take care of them and support their Thai family.
who look for retired foreign men because they think those men have money to take care of them and support their Thai families.
In the opposite, what about Thai women chose younger foriegn men to be their husbands.
On the other side, I also asked what she thought about Thai women who choose younger foreign men as husbands.
She said,
“ I do not know and I cannot tell at all because myself will follow the feeling and loves most.
“I don’t know, and I can’t really say, because I personally follow my feelings and love first.
She added, “We use a lot of enegery to live with someone for life.”
She added, “We use a lot of energy to live with someone for life.”
Her suggestion was do not rush to take the decision but take time to know the man well enough before taking a serious decision to throw your life in with his life.
Her suggestion was not to rush into a decision, but to take time to know the man well enough before making a serious choice to join your life with his.